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For the longest time, I thought there was something wrong with me and the way I interacted with the world. In my childhood, I had a very active imagination and could play for hours by myself. I am sure some of it was the lack of children my age in my neighborhood and I needed to learn how to entertain myself. In my adulthood, I was with an emotionally abusive person for a long time who was very extroverted. He could not understand I how only had one or two friends at a time, did not like parties or even how I could come home from work and sit outside and just look at the clouds. He made me feel like I had issues.

It wasn’t until therapy and a couple of good books that I begin to understand and accept myself. The first book was There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate by Cheri Huber. Cheri explains the negative self-talk cycle habit and how to reverse it.  It made sense and put me on the right track.

The second book I read was Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain.  Susan described exactly why introverts do what they do. The need for down time, introspection, energy levels and their rich inner world.

At this time in my life I am with someone who is also somewhat introverted, but maybe not as much as I am. He completely understands my need for down time, peace and quiet. We both enjoy parties and company at times but also know when enough is enough.

I have nothing against extroverts. I enjoy their company and feel that a quiet person with a talkative one can be a good balance. The extrovert can bring me out of my shell and get my ideas flowing.

At this stage of the game, I am at a good place of loving and accepting myself for who I am and also accepting others for who they are.  As they say, live and let live.

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Welcome to my very first post! If you are familiar with the song by Led Zeppelin entitled “That’s the Way”, you may understand  the tagline I have chosen.  I am approaching 50 and have come a long way in life as we all have at this age an older.   I plan to ramble on about many things and what I have learned along the way… my upbringing, relationships, pets, spirituality, body image, employment etc.

What I am sure of at this time in my life is that anything I used to think was important really isn’t. If I do not resist life, it flows beautifully.  Looking forward to putting my thoughts into this new blog.

Thanks for reading!

And yesterday I saw you standing by the river, And weren’t those tears that filled your eyes, And all the fish that lay in dirty water dying, Had they got you hypnotized? And yesterday I saw you kissing tiny flowers, But all that lives is born to die. And so I say to you that nothing really matters, And all you do is stand and cry……..