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For the longest time, I thought there was something wrong with me and the way I interacted with the world. In my childhood, I had a very active imagination and could play for hours by myself. I am sure some of it was the lack of children my age in my neighborhood and I needed to learn how to entertain myself. In my adulthood, I was with an emotionally abusive person for a long time who was very extroverted. He could not understand I how only had one or two friends at a time, did not like parties or even how I could come home from work and sit outside and just look at the clouds. He made me feel like I had issues.

It wasn’t until therapy and a couple of good books that I begin to understand and accept myself. The first book was There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate by Cheri Huber. Cheri explains the negative self-talk cycle habit and how to reverse it.  It made sense and put me on the right track.

The second book I read was Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain.  Susan described exactly why introverts do what they do. The need for down time, introspection, energy levels and their rich inner world.

At this time in my life I am with someone who is also somewhat introverted, but maybe not as much as I am. He completely understands my need for down time, peace and quiet. We both enjoy parties and company at times but also know when enough is enough.

I have nothing against extroverts. I enjoy their company and feel that a quiet person with a talkative one can be a good balance. The extrovert can bring me out of my shell and get my ideas flowing.

At this stage of the game, I am at a good place of loving and accepting myself for who I am and also accepting others for who they are.  As they say, live and let live.

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